You may have read Part One, which was clearly geared to my readers of the male persuasion...but listen up ladies you have a part to play in this as well...
Being a lady has been quite a learning process for me...still learning...trust me...
I was a Tom Boy...seriously...hated skirts...hated them...played sports...the second my Catholic School let me wear khaki pants instead of a skirt I was like SIGN ME UP! ...I held my own, and I didn't need boys to do anything for me...and I carried that attitude with me for a while...
High school was fun and games...but then in college I took a job as a grounds keeper...tough stuff...well if I can pick up the trash around campus and shovel mulch for hours why do you think I can't open that door by myself???
No really I can carry it, it isn't that heavy...seriously
I'm not some weak little girl who can't do anything...
Ok ok....slowly but surely I began to realize that the gentlemen doing these things didn't think I was weak and pathetic...they were just trying to be nice...nice....what why would people want to be nice to me?
ummmm self because they are gentlemen and they care about you...ohhhhhh right
So wait how do you go from defensive to accepting...and even liking guys being gentlemen?
First step....notice it....I mean really....Do you think he actually prefers to be the last one to get food? NO...do you think he really really really just loves walking on the outside of the sidewalk that much? ...I mean maybe...
In your day to day life there may be guys around you who do little things...some very little, some a bit larger...notice those things...say thanks if the situation warrants it...smile...something
ACKNOWLEDGE THE GUY
Give him some credit. He is going out of his way to do something for you...notice it and appreciate it
Do something back...what? I'm a lady I don't have to do anything...WRONG...very wrong...and rude
You noticed he did something...for you....so maybe you should do something for him....ya ya ya saying thanks is a great start...but really? Do something back...something small...it doesn't have to be some grand gesture...compliment him, offer to help him with something...even if you know he is just going to say...no no no I got this...sometimes the offer is enough...
People keep debating whether or not chivalry is dead...what about being a lady? I mean really? We've forgotten...straight up forgotten how to be ladies...it is more than just sitting properly and remembering not to swear in public...its about how we, as women, respond to the people around us. Its about respect, and acknowledgement. its about being grateful and kind. Think about it ladies, give it a try :)
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